An old friend of the family.**
- not related at all.**
- but we’ll call her Aunt X.**
- gave my dad some valuable jewelry about 5-6 years ago. She told him he could do whatever he wanted with it. She said he could sell it.**
- or maybe divide it up between his kids.**
- or give it to his wife (my mom). She said whatever he wanted.**
- she didn’t care.**
- it was his. Since then.**
- my dad has passed away.**
- and he left the jewelry to my mother and asked her to leave it to their kids (me and 3 siblings) when she passes.

Now.**
- Aunt X just passed away last month. She didn’t leave my family anything in her will.**
- and we didn’t expect her to. But she did leave my dad’s brother and his wife her entire estate.**
- which they well deserve.**
- because they took care of Aunt X and she lived with them after she couldn’t take care of herself (she was 101 when she died!).

The problem is.**
- someone in my dad’s family (his real aunt.**
- we’ll call her Aunt BB.**
- because she’s a real busybody!) found out Aunt X gave my dad some jewelry.**
- and she came to my mom and told my mom that Aunt X said she wanted that jewelry divided up between my dad’s kids and my uncle’s kids. My mom knows my dad specifically did NOT want to give my uncle’s kids any of the jewelry.**
- because though my uncle and aunt took care of Aunt X.**
- the kids never did anything for her and acted like the resented her living with them.

My mom is freaking out.**
- because she wants to honor my dad’s wishes and divide the jewelry between us and leave the cousins out of it. Aunt BB is calling my mom daily now.**
- asking about the jewelry and wanting to know what my mom is going to do with it. My mom doesn’t want to have to be the bad guy.**
- and she doesn’t want to be intimidated into giving up something my dad wanted.**
- but if she doesn’t do what Aunt BB wants.**
- Aunt BB will go and tell everyone else in the family and will spin it so it makes my mom look bad.**
- and then everyone else will be hard on her.

I personally could care less about the jewelry. I have plenty of money.**
- and never knew the jewelry even existed before last week. I don’t need it.**
- and I don’t want it. I told my mother this.**
- and she got mad at me and said it was my dad’s wish that I should have my share of it. I told her she could divide up my share amongst the other cousins.**
- so that they could take part in the jewelry.**
- but at the same time.**
- my siblings get the amount my father intended for them to have. I thought that would be a fair solution.**
- but instead.**
- my mom went off on a rant about how Aunt BB would be coming for all the other things that were my dad’s (given to him from her or her husband.**
- or her sister – his mom – or whomever) and that if he didn’t actually buy it himself.**
- she’d try to take it all.

I think this is a little extreme and paranoid sounding.**
- and I wonder if she might not be having just another crazy hormonal breakdown (she has one about once a month or so.**
- and has done ever since my father died). I just don’t know.**
- because I could care less about the jewelry.**
- so maybe I’m not seeing the problem clearly?

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So I guess I would like to know 1 – how would you handle the extended family and 2 – who’s wishes would you honor and 3- what would you do if this were your mother???

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